the only lana del rey coded men are 30 year old white trash construction workers and like myspace era tom hardy. no poised and conventionally attractive actor is lana del rey coded thats just not how that works
that's some seriously nasty terf shit you just reblogged. fuckin yikes dude
well i do hope you dont end up in the same situations as alluded to in the post. hopefully you wont end up with enough bad experiences to recognize the regular ol pattern of typical bad behavior coming from male socialization (regardless of how someone identifies) - and then never be allowed to point it out. many people branded as “terfs” - even if not an actual radical feminist - end up that way because theyre alienated by abusive patterns in the wider queer community. it wont stop until more people blow the whistle instead of keeping their experiences to themelves.
but this is just my tumblr, im just blowing off steam. youre free to unfollow.
The way male violence against female people is so obscured and hidden away in the trans/queer community is so appalling to me now that I’ve been out of it for a few years. The amount of creepy predatory behavior I put up with from males who “identified as lesbians” is actually insane. But to be a good little transman is to shut up and pretend not to notice male patterns of violence… ignore your own instinctive sense of danger when a male tells you he loves your breasts and repeatedly asks to have sex with you despite your very polite “no thank yous”, oh it’s fine bc he wears makeup and mesh dresses 2 sizes too small and has a fucked up haircut and named himself after a fugly anime character who is a misogynistic caricature of a teenage girl. :) Be a good little ally now, don’t make HER uncomfortable! (the fact that SHE did it to you first means NOTHING that’s just ~girly talk~ don’t get all offended it was a JOKE!)
But the reality is that this is very normal for female people in queer/trans spaces to have to put up with and it is considered the ultimate evil to point it out. To even personally acknowledge it inside your own mind is a sign of your transphobic bigotry that you need to unpack and unlearn and also CHECK your afab privilege! (the privilege of men wanting to steal your organs and use your body as a sex toy)
the ancient and noble art of Hating must remain distinct from the dogmatism of the moral crusade. hating has no greater goal. it is not about engineering change or imposing one’s will upon others. to hate is a complete act in and of itself
